Where's the key/what's the password????

I just spent a lot of time trying to find my way back to this blog. It's like having a diary with a lock that the key is lost and feeling like part of yourself is lost too. Okay so I am back and hope to write again soon.

Ramblings

When I write I usually have some insight I want to share but I don't think there is much with this one. My family and I are going on day six of being home together with a foot of snow outside. I am not saying anything anyone with a family knows....too much time together without an outlet for the little ones energy results in choo-choo-ness. Making the best of it and praying we don't run out of milk and cheese crackers. :)

When the leaves fall

When the leaves fall... I will be honest I am not a fan of all the bare trees of winter time. But as I study them I realize there is a lose of pretense. Each bend and turn of the branches shows how it grown. We do a lot to hide ourselves (even from ourselves). To grow in a new direction it takes some interspection and willingness to really see without pretense. The naked trees of winter remind me that beneath the gorgeous leaves is authentic beauty that make each one different and beautiful. Just like each of us.

Dawning perspective

Dawning Perspective I rise before dawn and tiptoe to the kitchen to make myself a steaming mocha coffee. Careful to not make a sound I slip outside to the screened-in-porch to be by myself before the husband and kids awake. I sip my sweet java as the sun rises, the birds sing, the squirrels play, and the smell of the dew rises. What a glorious sight to me is the sun rays upon the leaves and the shadows it cast among the trees. I think this is the most beautiful dawn but with a few blinks of my eyes it slightly brings more beauty. Change in our hearts can be this beautiful in the light of our Savior. If we would just be still and take a moment to see.

Wanting to feel

Wanting to feel better
For the panic to let go
Hoping for a day
The pain won't show.

Facing the evil and my innocence stolen

In the place I always hide
Numbness takes over
No drugs needed
 too much pain  & float away.

Only for a time can I be there because now I am needed here

Even if only a face in the crowd.
I have to focus to come back
What do I see, smell, taste?
Can I hear my breath or 
Feel anything?

Dissociating served me well as a child
But as an adult it’s not the best coping style
I miss too much, feel too little
It is a fight to stay and not drift away.

 

Loved ones hurt when I am away
They just love me and want me near everyday

I can stand up to you Fear and break free because greater is He in me than in you.

 

Lessons I have learned in my garden

               I am putting in a vegetable garden for the first time in my life.  It seems odd that I have waited this long to do a garden of my own because I remember helping my mom plant green beans in the garden as a small child.  It is one of my fondest memories of being with her.  I must have paid more attention than I realize or I have some natural talent for it because planting has not been as hard as I thought it was going to be.  This garden plot has history because it has been tended and has grown vegetables before.  It had grown over and was just lawn for many years but with the help of a friend the ground was tilled and I began the process of getting the weeds and rocks out.  This is where another line of thinking began to flow and I thought about how this garden is so similar to my own life.

            As I began working the soil with my hoe to remove the clumps of weeds and grass and many rocks I thought about how this soil is like my soul, which is my mind, my heart, and my conscience and emotions.  These weeds are like negative thoughts that were planted in my soul and have taken root from harsh actions or lack of care for me as I was growing up.  The rocks represent the obstacles that are in my life.  The soil in this part of Missouri is a sandy, rocky soil, being the eastern slope of the Ozark Plateau.  Regardless of how deep you go in this soil there are more and more rocks.  How true to life that regardless of how and to whom you are born into this world there are obstacles that you will be a part of your life.

            To care for my life-soil as I care for this garden soil and to prepare it for planting so that it will be fruitful, l I must remove the weeds and rocks.  Leaving others to tend to your soul isn’t effective and even more damaging because they are not going to see clearly, nor how deeply some weeds (negative thoughts about yourself) have grown into the soil.  Only I can dig up the weeds so that the planted gifts in my soul can get nourishment and begin to grow. Even I can’t see clearly with my ambitions and emotions so strong when evaluating the damage to my soul. What we can’t remove ourselves takes a master gardener. God is the master gardener of the soil of my heart.  His Spirit can gently and precisely remove the weeds of negative thoughts from my soul so that healing can begin. (1)  The blood of the Lord Jesus Christ, from His crucifixion upon the cross, is able to completely heal those wounds to my soul from neglect and abuse that only God can see clearly. (2) Leaving others to take care of our hearts or ignoring them ourselves will result with weeds of negative thoughts to grow wild in the soil of our hearts choking out any good plant that would even try to grow.

            Words do not need to be spoken to be written upon a child’s heart: that you are not important, that you will never be enough, that you are not loved or wanted.  Everyone has soul damage from those they have come contact with in this world either intentionally or unintentionally. For some of us it is deeper than others and more traumatic.  Some us have to work harder to remove the weeds that go deeper and we all need the work of the Trinity to do what we can't  do in our own might and what other powers claim to be able to do. 

I was running out of daylight and wanted to get the dead weeds cleared before it rained. I didn’t have time to see how deep some went or knock of the rich soil that clung to the weeds.    I had to do a quick sweep away like we need to do sometimes when negativity is being poured onto us by someone we have allowed to get deep into our lives. Sometimes you can’t evaluate it and fix it immediately, but it is time to put up a boundary and quickly put an end to the toxic words that are damaging your soul. This is about protecting, nurturing, and growing a healthy soul with God given gifts in it that will only flourish if tended to.  It brings no glory to God to allow others to mistreat you. It doesn't have to be done in a harsh or accusing way. Others aren't responsible for how you feel. You are responsible for how you allow others to affect you. Take gentle care of your soul and trust the Master Gardener and establish healthy boundaries to get out the weeds of negativity.

This piece is dedicated to the damaged souls of neglect and abuse who have never been heard. 

1) Hebrews 4:12 King James Version (KJV)

¹² For the word of God is quick, and powerful, and sharper than any twoedged sword, piercing even to the dividing asunder of soul and spirit, and of the joints and marrow, and is a discerner of the thoughts and intents of the heart.

2) 1 Samuel 16:7 New International Version (NIV)

⁷ But the Lord said to Samuel, “Do not consider his appearance or his height, for I have rejected him. The Lord does not look at the things people look at. People look at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart.”

Worth the Wait

My son is a promised baby from God.  I waited and believed that we would have a son for nearly ten years. I thought the sorrow of that time of waiting was unbearable.  It was only preparing me.

I waited to be a mom
I waited to hold my son
I waited for his first word
I waited to understand his words
I waited for his first phrases
I waited for his first sentence
I waited for our first conversation
I still wait for some of these and struggle to understand him.
What my mind struggles to understand my heart knows.
It is worth the wait.